Perhaps you are not directly affected by tragic death of Kennedy Obilum, but your friends are hurting and you don't know how to respond. Here are a few basic ways you can help:
1. Be present. Plan on being there for your grieving friend.
2. Let pain be pain. It is not your job too take away their pain or to try and minimize it. You don't even have to talk, just be there.
3. Listen. Really listen. Listening is almost a lost art. Hear what your friend says and respond. Talk about the memories of the deceased. But mainly listen.
4. If your friend is in extreme distress find someone you both trust who can help like a minister or a pastor.
Those are just a few ways you can help a friend who its hurting.
You can of course always come talk to me.
Blessed are those who mourn,
for they will be comforted. Matthew 5:4